The wages of manwhoring is rejection! At least by a woman who does not share your short-term mating orientation.
I promised strategic advice, so here it is. First, a window into female psychology and attraction. No doubt you’re aware that women favor preselected men. If a ton of other chicks think you’re a catch, we can save a lot of time by jumping into the competition without doing independent due diligence. But this preselection benefit is not unconditional and unlimited.
Relationship-oriented women love it when a man has options, but they respect a man who is very selective. If you’ve had sex with a lot of women, by definition you have not been selective. How do we know this? Because men compromise on looks to get casual sex, and the best looking women generally won’t play. So you’re asking a woman who is herself quite a catch to get with a man who sets the bar low. Quality women don’t want to be part of that herd.
If you truly believe you are in love with her, and want to change your lifestyle, your mission is to convince her of the sincerity of your affection and your desire to become “a new man.”
This will take time and patience.
• You should lay it on the line and tell her how you feel about her.
• Your behavior should be loving without expectations of getting anything in return.
• You should settle in for a long-term project. Winter is coming.
• You should stop flirting like a player and start acting like a man who wants the real deal with her and only her.
• No impersonal sex with others.
Most former players couldn’t and wouldn’t do this. You certainly are not obligated to follow this strategy – you could let this one go. There is no guarantee she would ever return your feelings or be able to trust you in a long-term relationship in any case.
If you decide to move on (which is what I would recommend), then you will need to either go back to pursuing women who share your short-term mating orientation, or seriously get your friends to keep your manwhoring days a secret.